How To Elevate Your Spirit When You’re Feeling Blah…
“Don’t deny your emotions – understand them” I usually say, but… when we are in less than enthusiastic state, we don’t always want to do the introspection… We want to feel good.
This is a post about being willing to feel better and taking action towards it.
It may look like this: You have an overwhelming sense of sadness, for no reason at all, or you feel awful… just awful. You have fallen into a dark hole and you decided it’s comfy; you want to stay here. Some people keep digging the hole (how? talking negatively, giving themselves more reasons to doubt everything, recalling all the reasons why they are a failure) and some just sit there with resignation, not even realizing they can look up and see the sky (not realizing they can switch the language settings in their head, to more hopeful and positive. Language that is not unrealistic. Simply: more positive.)
You have the power to uplift your spirit, feel better, not denying your truth. On your own. (Or with music.)
Below are few ways of elevating your mood, pick one and do it now.
1. Set a standard for yourself: how do I want to feel?
Stop oscillating in the area of moderation. Aim high: what the best mood I can possibly be in? To what heights I could elevate my spirit, that if I was to die tomorrow, it would be ok, because: I HAVE LIVED.
Set the intention. Decide on your spirit’s destination.
Notice wherever you go to meetings, work, dates and you have a feeling of dislike about them – they don’t go well. But if you are excited – without an attachment to the outcome – they are usually exciting. Didn’t notice? Set an intention for your next gathering, work day and see how that affects your experience, your perception.
Maybe it is just the expectation, just the intention that makes the difference. Maybe really being “responsible for the energy we bring to the room”, how we direct the energy, is what makes all the difference.
2. What is the low line I will not cross?
The darkest corners of our souls are especially tempting in moments like this. If you don’t make an effort to swim up to the surface, they can easily pull you down.
Decide NOT go below certain vibes.
Since like attracts like, when you feel down, do not dwell on it, don’t build it, don’t spread it. This energy will attract something you don’t want, so… elevate elevate elevate. (fresh grieving process may be a different story)
3. Compassion for all. You included.
Whatever is your pain, thousands of others feel the same pain at this moment. Imagine their pain. When you inhale: feel their pain. When you exhale: send healing, peace, relief to all those people. (it is called “tonglen” practice in Buddhism). Paradoxically thinking of much more pain, doesn’t increase ours, but helps to release it.
4. Move your body, change your posture.
6. From feelings to logic.
Ok, this feels bad…What’s the plan?
What am I not bringing here? Since “only what we are not offering, can lack in any situation” ACIM
What do I need to learn here? Rumor has it that bad situations will repeat until we learn from them.
(is it a repeating situation?)
What is the most mature / loving / compassionate/ way of handling this?
What do I need to show up with here? What is my responsibility? (taking responsibility you can handle, increases a sense of personal power)
And if all this doesn’t help… for Zagat’s sake, can someone take you to an amazing dinner, plus a fabulous dessert, that will take you straight to heaven!? Elevate!