How Long Does It Take To Turn Your Life Around?

How long does it take to turn your life around?  I was deeply shocked when I read this today:

“I’m a depressed person whose only reason to get out of bed is to work. Because I have to.  Morning shower still can’t wash away the hardship of yesterday… It’s hard when nothing has any meaning. I wish one day I could wake up smiling…  In the morning, before I open my eyes I worry. Anxiety keeps me from falling asleep. Panic attacks wake me in the middle of the night.”
These are words of a hard working, stressed out, yet “functioning” adult. Functioning means: if it moves, breaths, and eats – it functions. 

“Sounds like… normal life!” I hear some of you saying. Is life suffering? Or is life a delight? Both.

We can see the illusions only once we escape them. In the middle of struggle – the pain feels very real.

I am extremely glad I read this.

This is why: it gives me access to a mind of a depressed but functioning person. I can relate and start a conversation on that level, instead of on the level on which I operate and think now.  I can remind myself that this experience – THIS IS A PART OF LIFE.

I doubt there was ever anyone…

…who has escaped: the crisis of meaning, crisis of spirituality, love, self-worth, self- acceptance. The dark night of the soul and the hero’s journey. – everyone gets there sooner or later.

“The next time you struggle, THAT’S the time to create your AUTHENTIC POWER. That’s the moment you distinguish between the fear and love.”– Gary Zukav.  We need to remember (and that takes practice) that when we go thru the hard times they are here so we can create our strength, find our authentic power. Not power over other people, but power over our weakness and inner limitations (that’s actually the philosophy behind the original name of my website Positively Rebellious)

There is a shadow of shame lingering

Maybe I shouldn’t have shared this? It was a page in my journal. I wrote the note 8 years ago. Today I have a deep sense of meaning, fulfillment, harmony, enormous appreciation for life, myself and people in my life. Appreciation for every experience. I practice compassion for strangers. I have at least some understanding of life’s mysteries. (Yes, I also struggle with unresolved issues and an inner critic. And, yes, sometimes people annoy me. That’s a work in progress)

Am I lucky or did I create this? How long will this last?

I wrote this note 8 years ago. It didn’t take me 8 years to turn my life around. Maybe one or two. I had to make actual changes in life, relationship, environment, education, circle of friends, etc, changes I was VERY, very scared to make. And I had no wise souls around me to support me.

What was my guiding star?

I listened to my soul. 


There was NO OTHER reason at all. No reasonable reason, if you ask. It wasn’t JUST praying, or changing my mindset. These had to be physical changes. I followed the directions.  No guarantees, no explanations.  I felt it was a choice between life and death. 

Listen to your soul. Or die.
Sometimes, that’s the alternative.

How long does it take to turn your life around?

If you listen to your spirit – not as long as you may think.

Following my North Star

If you resist, if you find reasons and excuses why you have to stick to the situation, that kills your soul. It will hurt longer. For many, this take years. We hope things will change. Do a reality check. Are there signs of changing? How much are you sacrificing? There is no time to lose when it comes to life.



Joanna Zajusz

Through advanced hypnotherapy and life coaching Joanna has been helping clients to become free of their once adopted limitations, find confidence in their own voice, and create a strong foundation of inner peace. She is a certified Mind Body Wellness Coach who lives in Phoenix, Arizona. (Because she moved to the Southwest - her dream - only 14 years ago, you may still detect a Central European accent in her writings and speech.) She is a passionate fan of Marianne Williamson, Caroline Myss, and Dr. Robert Anthony.