Non-Judgement, Oneness, and Big, Open Spaces.
My friend, Joybroker, just wrote something insightful, and poetic about non-judgement. I couldn’t fall asleep because of that. I felt uncomfortably inspired. I’ve been mulling over “judgement” for the longest time (over a year, that is), and practicing non-judgement (or simply discernment and observation, that don’t have the negative load), whenever I dealt with a “judgement challenge.”
When I think of “judgement”, I right away think of self judgement: a habit of comparing ourselves to others. Because to compare yourself, you need to judge first. Judge yourself. Judge the other person. Compare.
- Neither step can make us feel good.
- It’s an emotionally unhealthy practice.
- Training in mental masochism.
- Ignorance of your own total uniqueness.
- Denial of your truth.
“Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self” – Iyanla Vanzant
Even if you think you are better than them – it is an illusion. You know… to be a good judge you need a great deal of information. And you are missing pieces… There is no use in “being better”, and being better says nothing about your worth as a human. (This is a difficult concept. If you ask me, I think I will be able to defend it over coffee)
Why we’ll always have bad aftertaste after comparing or judging?
Judgement creates Separateness.
Practice of non-judgement – Oneness.
There is a huge difference how and where Separateness and Oneness feel in your body. Have you noticed? Contraction, vs. expansion. Heaviness vs. lightness.
How to practice non judgement? With anticipation. How often? Daily.
This challenge will keep showing up. You will want to compare yourself, judge yourself…
Each time you resist you’ll discover more and more of beautiful, open spaces inside you. As if there was suddenly more clean air to breath. And that unbearable lightness of being….
I would like to hear from you in the comments below, what was your road to a place where you started refraining from judgement? Are you caught in harsh judging now? How does it affect you?
Below is a fragment of a blog from LivingWisdom.kabbalah.com that says it perfectly:
Michael Berg states in The Way, “Full awareness of our own intentions and motives is hard enough, so how can we pass judgment on another person’s life? …If we accept that our understanding of the spiritual world is limited, it is foolish to imagine that we can see through the intricacies of the spiritual universe enough to penetrate the mysteries of other people’s destinies.” Our goal should always be to nonjudgmental acts of compassion—listening, assisting, and sharing. – See more at: http://livingwisdom.kabbalah.com/all-judgment-aside#sthash.pNlqMvC1.dpuf