Three Things You Can Do Today to Feel Empowered
People who have ability to empower others, have something Julia Cameron called “the believing eyes”. They are able to see us being and doing what we dream of. I bet you can recall time, when you felt all fired up about some project, yet you still doubted if you have what it takes, and there was a person whose words of encouragement and simple “Of course you can do it, I totally see you doing it” instantly magnified your confidence.
If that friend, that mentor are not there, what can YOU do to put an end to self doubt and feel lasting sense of empowerment?
Instead of waiting passively, you do it yourself. You generate change from within.
In addition to simply believing in ourself, these three habits can help us feel empowered and “in charge”:
1. Resist the habit of comparing yourself to others.
That’s a game you will never win.
If you are using comparison just to feel better, why would you need to do it in the first place? It may be time for you to look at your insecurities. On the other hand if you notice that “you are far behind”, you will beat yourself up, end up frustrated, “shoulding” yourself. It’s neither pretty, nor productive. Success tends to look easy on the surface. It rarely is. Unless you know the person’s story in details, you will never know how much they had to sacrifice, learn, go thru, how many ups and downs they experienced.
When you resist comparing yourself, you will be less engaged in judgement, and self-judgement, which alone work against “empowerment” from within.
What can you do? As usually mindfulness helps: the moment you notice that you start comparing yourself, decide to stop such thoughts in their tracks. Instead, choose to focus on your special gifts and what is unique about you and what you offer. Appreciate what you already accomplished. This awareness and gratitude will bring your focus back to you, your work, your path. This is much more empowering than the distracting judgement.
2. Take responsibility.
It is worth noticing: when we leave our choices to chance, routine, or to others, what happens when we aren’t ok with the outcome? We complain, blame: the other person, weather, parents, the president or road construction workers, and completely forget that we had a chance to make a decision, to take responsibility: basic ingredients to feel disempowered.
Though today may not be time to make any big decisions for you, see what emerges. What can you take responsibility for? Look also at those things, you are currently not bragging about.
What can you do? Several things come to my mind that we usually resist to take responsibility for.
Our bodies: what do you owe your body? Workout or rest? Second opinion of another doctor or acceptance of medicine that makes you feel even worse? Is it really time for more comfort food, or would you actually feel empowered if you ate that big, organic salad for dinner?
Our mind: We get caught up in worries, thoughts that run thru your head unleashed and chaotic. Those thoughts become more and more pessimistic and we are on a downward spiral. The empowering fact is: we can decide where our thoughts take us. Up or down. Imagine how you want to feel, how do you really want to go thru the day, how do you want to be in the end of the day, then choose thoughts that will get you there.
Our soul: How can you take responsibility for your spiritual growth? Do you follow certain ideology, rules set by someone else, or are you ready to create your own system, and practices that will truly connect you to the divine, making your inner life beyond rich?
Our emotions: You have heard the famous: “You are responsible for the energy you bring to the room”. What energy do you emanate? Usually it will reflect what’ s on your conscious and subconscious mind. Do you know if the vibration of your thoughts is low or high? What do you want it to be?
3. Do Something. Action!
One of the best things you can do to feel empowered is to take a step or two that brings you closer to your goal. And the next day again. And again. To make it manageable, make a list of all the small things that need to be done so you can accomplish your goal. Every small success will make the next one easier.
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