Want To Feel Better About This Past Year?
How do you feel about the past year?
If you don’t like what you feel how can you change it?
It’s not about denying the difficult feelings… or not honoring the difficult changes and transitions… we need to look at everything.
This is about changing focus.
Changing the…chemistry of your memory:
- So when we look back we feel an increase of energy vs drain.
- So when we look back we feel better about ourselves vs feeling lost or disappointed.
- We do it to have highest self esteem, better relationships and better health.
You may say: what do you know – I massively messed up this year! To which I will say: even in the midst of things that didn’t go well, there are still wonderful, brave, amazing things you accomplished. And you can and should acknowledge yourself for them.
Few days ago I took a quick look back… and it took me just a second to realize I want to impatiently dismiss the previous year as not important. Why was it? As much as I could recall in 1 second: “nothing spectacular happened.” It was just… meh. But was it ? Really, was it just ok?
And is it how I want 2015 be written in my memory?
No. This past year was about:
- managing my energy,
- feeling good mindfully,
- it was about reaching for the higher energetic vibration,
- and using my own mind to recognize and transform the negative into positive.
- it was about recognizing the negative feelings with a goal of limiting their presence to few minutes max.
- it was about CHOOSING one thought, one emotion above the other.
So when I look back at the past year and I’m not excited, I know that in my mind I can:
go back and change the past.
I’m not going to change the events.
I am going to change how I feel about them.
I’m going to bring to focus the positive.
And this is also an invitation for you…
After all – we know that memory plays tricks on us… what we think happened is not a complete reflection of reality. In fact we can influence how our memories form. And feelings are a big part of memories.
So when I spent a bit more time looking back, I reviewed my journal, notes from coaching, photos, recalled my breakthroughs, pushing my limits, listening to my intuition, ending sugar addiction, positive feedback from my clients, the commitments I stuck to, and reflected on my relationships… I realized it was an important year.
Look back. Focus on the good things. Acknowledge yourself for the moments you did great.
What’s the alternative?
Beating yourself up that you didn’t accomplish all you planned, being hard on yourself, maintaining any negativity leads to… nothing. Nothing except feeling bad.
Based on my experience deliberate focus on joy and high emotional vibration – brings reward after reward after reward…
I meditated and watched the sunset.
The distant mountains was what I wanted to remember from that last day.
As I hiked down, I was reminded again that we create our own bliss, peace, beauty, and amazement
and only we can set an intention to open up, to allow grace.
May this new year be happy, joyful and positive for you.
P.S. Here is a post from two years ago I wrote at the end of the year [or a summary of lessons from the past 39 years]