Three things that sabotage our happiness, success, and creativity.

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Though there is no actual final destination, deep inside we know if we are closer to being frustrated or fulfilled.

Very often we sabotage our own happiness, success, creativity or relationships.

There is a lot of inner work that goes into discovering the truth about ourselves, and I doubt now if this work is ever finished.

But for now let’s keep the question to these 3 simple reasons.

You may not be “there” yet because…

1. No Clear Vision and No Sense of Direction. 

What helps to envision, what helps to choose the direction is a sense of purpose.

It’s knowing what you want. Not only for yourself, but for others. How can you best use your talents and knowledge in an epic way? How can people benefit from your skills and gifts?  Keep asking, ask yourself, ask the Divine, meditate and allow for the answers to come. We need to connect with ourselves on a very deep level to have the sense of purpose and direction. It’s not given. That’s why this is so precious once we find it.

What else can give us clarity? Taking action, taking small steps forward. We can dream all day long but this will not give us clarity as fast as taking few steps will. When we engage our whole body, mind, heart and spirit into a project – we get feedback from within real fast.

Don’t forget about joy. WHAT DO YOU CLAIM FOR YOURSELF IN THIS LIFE? What do you claim for yourself in this IN THIS particular ADVENTURE?  If we don’t ask, if we don’t create it –  we don’t receive it.

2. You are using an outdated description of yourself.

You have outgrown your story and you haven’t notice.

If you want to get to new place in life – describe yourself now in new terms.

Or rather, peel the layers of what’s no longer true. Connect with your essential self.

Use bold terms with audacity. Make it big or way too big. 

With each moment feeling more life flowing in your veins. 

As if…  you were returning home to yourself. 

Create your new story.

3. You are committed to things and people that sabotage Your dream

You self sabotage, by having a bunch of underlying commitments,  as a convenient excuse for not growing, not creating, not stepping into your power.

Claim your time. Claim your schedule. Your passions. Learn to say “no” – if you don’t – you will forever we be a servant in someone else’s life. Harsh, but isn’t it true?

I know there are times when we truly need to help others, because that’s our PURPOSE at this stage in life. But we often stay there, when the circumstances no longer require us to sacrifice our time and energy. Remember nobody is coming to give the time back to you, you need to claim it yourself.

This work also is never done. I can attest this. But I can also say that every time we choose ourselves, we move forward and in often invisible ways, day after day, “no” after “no” – you will claim your space, your time and your dream. 

Now,  let’s do the work.

You know, you are going to get “there”.

And it is nonnegotiable.