No time to lose: train your brain to think on purpose
It takes time to train our brains to think helpful thoughts. It takes time to remember to separate facts from opinions and thoughts. It takes time to catch that this painful emotions came from errors in thinking. Not from reality. It takes time to embody the skills, have the awareness, and act on it in the moment.
All those skills are best learned and practiced when things are relatively calm. So when the sh%^& actually hits the fan, when there is a big conflict, big life’s event – you are ready