Healer heal yourself
If you work in a healing profession, you know there are many wounded healers out there. However, there are also healed, happy healers. This is a reminder to keep working on ourselves. Because if we don’t, not only do we not walk the talk, but our clients and patients don’t receive the best service they can.
When we speak through the filter of our unhealed parts, they feel it.
If you were the client: you were seeing a therapist, counselor, coach, energy healer, or doctor, and you felt something was not right, you felt worse than before the session – maybe you dealt with an unhealed healer.
From time to time someone tells me that after talking to a therapist, or another coach they felt ashamed, depressed, scolded, or judged. And I also had a share of such experiences, since I worked with many as the client.
“An unhealed healer is trying to give what he has not received […] he doesn’t know where to look for truth, and therefore does not have the answer to the problem of healing.” – The Science of Mind
An example of an unhealed healer is a theologian who says, “I am a miserable sinner, and so are you.”
“A therapist does not heal. He let’s healing be.”
We need to get in touch with our shadows and bring healing to those places. If we don’t look at ourselves and come to the healing space where we serve others, with a clear mind, what could happen?
This is what I noticed from the client’s perspective. The unhealed healers:
- Speak from a place of limitation for the client – because they feel limited.
- Let their shadow show up in between the lines.
- Reveal their limited vision for the client in the tone of voice (sarcasm, disbelief) or in a facial expression.
- Express judgment, not realizing it.
- do not have faith in the person in front of them; they coach without believing in the client,
- do not love the client and their potential
If we don’t believe in the client (patient) or their goal, we should not work with them. I strongly believe that because our faith in the client and the process helps the client heal, and sometimes, they will need to borrow that faith before they have it fully themselves. If we judge a person, we should not work with that person in the first place.
Sometimes, we are the first person they tell about the issue. If we don’t create a safe space to do the work, will they ever try again with someone else?
Are you working in a healing profession, or are you a coach, and it bothers you what comes up in your mind before, during, or after the session? Do you feel that your self-concept prevents you from doing your best work? Contact me, get coached, and be confident again.