“Can I get rid of anger if I meditate daily?” The Nature Of Our Emotions

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In this post: Can we get rid of emotions?  What happens with strong emotions when we meditate? (when I say meditate I mean vipassana style, mindfulness meditation, or zen. I do not mean “guided relaxation”) 

Listen here to the short answer, or read the full version below :

“Do people who meditate still get angry?”

Many people dislike so much certain emotional states, they want to get rid of the emotions causing them. Anger is one of the most uncomfortable. Will meditation help? And even if it can, is it the only answer? Long answer:

1. First things first: can you really get rid of feelings?

Can you get rid of feeling of pain? Joy or disappointment? Why don’t we look at emotions as symptoms… When you have physical pain in your body you may try to get rid of it with painkillers. But being smart and mindful you would know that the pain may be a symptom of a deeper issue and you would investigate it. What could happen with the body if we ignore the symptom?

In the effort to get rid of certain feelings, you may want to suppress them, numb yourself. At the same time you should expect that you will not be able to fully enjoy the positive emotions too. And if you suppress, store, accumulate,  at some point you may become an exploding doormat.

But don’t worry, I am not going to offer a psychotherapy session to bring unpleasant things up and mull over them forever.

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For now: consider emotions symptoms we can’t ignore. They have something important to indicate about your life, relationships, self image…

View your emotions “as vehicles for transformation (the word emotion comes from the Latin meaning “to move”) rather as simply as feelings that make you happy or miserable. Expect them to test your heart; that’s the point. […] Facing emotions – all of them- is a courageous, spiritually transformative act.” Judith Orloff, M.D.

When you can’t get rid of something – transform it.

2. Nature of  emotions. 

Some people seem naturally calm (maybe they are suppressing everything, ha!)  and some always look like they are about to explode. (Don’t come close! Anything you do or say sets them off.)

However all emotions, those with good and those with bad reputation, are available to everyone all the time. Of course the difference between people is we are triggered by different things. And when we are triggered, we react with a different degree of intensity.  

We may be “trained” (by our parents, past, experiences,  state of mind, practice) to feel this or that emotion more. We can be trained to feel and show the positive more often. It can be more of a choice. A matter of right focus.

Since we know this, let’s go back to the question: 

Do people who meditate still get angry?

Short answer:

Whatever triggers you, may cause you to react automatically, without considering the consequences of your  actions and words.

When you practice meditation, there is a space, a cushion, created between the trigger and your reaction.  

This space, that may last a fraction of a second, allows you to make a decision about how to respond to the trigger. It allows you to quickly analyze consequences of your spontaneous reaction, and, likely, change the reaction to one that is constructive, or at least less damaging. Once you do that, you are actually no longer REACTING:  you are RESPONDING. 

Mindlessness doesn’t consider consequences (that’s why the trigger is pulled, and the words that hurt are said).  Even well justified anger if it is channeled into mindful action – brings (generally) better results (sometimes not- but so much good judgement must take place in that fraction of time) You don’t need to practice meditation to know this. You can be naturally mindful, or you developed a mechanism that help you do that.

But since all emotions are available to everyone, you don’t completely lose the ability of feeling it. People who have been meditating for 20, 30+ years (and are famous teachers of meditation) still report of incidents when they get mad, angry, unpleasant. They can still “lose it”.

In the essence:

Meditation allows you transform anger, possibly feel it with less intensity, make better choices about expressing the emotion. It may bring you insights as to how to avoid situations that lead you to it. It also may eventually create so much peace within you, that the people and things that made you feel bad before – no longer have any power to shake your peace.  You may also achieve the same results by simply living, observing, and drawing conclusions… what’s worth your time and energy?

Warning:  Be aware Meditation magnifies truth. It will magnify the good. And the ugly. If you deal with unexpressed anger and injustice, it can actually bring it up, animate it.  See it as a creative energy.  It may bring to the surface things you need to deal with to move on to the stage of transformation, mindfulness. Keep going (sitting). Otherwise, why meditate?

I would like to hear from you (via email or below in the comments) :

  • How is meditation helping you?
  • How were you able to transform negative emotions ?
  • What do you struggle with when it comes to meditating or out of control emotions? 

You may also find value in these posts: 

Healing From Anger

What’s under the anger?

7 Steps to heal from repressed anger

How to handle your anger

How to prevent a doormat explosion


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  • Anonymous says:

    Anger hate different colors,lover smile to all colors,,,remember,the deeper you meditation,the less you will be dictated by dualistic mind ,,,click>>

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