[Podcast 7] Active Appreciation
- How do we increase the value of something we do or have?
- When you appreciate something you increase its value in your eyes.
- When it has higher value in your eyes, you treat it as an asset, you take care of it, invest in it – you actively help it to increase its worth.
When do we think of appreciation? When we talk about the appreciative mindset and when we talk about the increase in value of money, investments, real estate. One has to do with mental attitude, the other with finances. But I put those two things together in my mind when I was asking myself: how do I take advantage of the time and freedom I have, and I saw those two kinds of appreciation have more in common than it may seem.
I recalled a conversation I had with an investor who is very good at increasing the value of the assets he has. He isn’t only waiting passively for the circumstances to increase the value of what he has (like demand, economy, jobs) He also actively improves the value of the assets by seeing potential in them and improving them. This work has value for others.
Strange topic for a personal development podcast? It helped me to connect the dots. You can tell the difference between people who appreciate themselves and those who don’t. People who appreciate others and those who don’t. Some people are always ready to settle for breadcrumbs while others will only consider the whole loaf. I know we can see the breadcrumb people in a better light as more humble but I’m not sure if they create what they truly want for themselves.
And you can see it clearly how sometimes people don’t appreciate their life, bodies, time they have on earth. They waste time, they don’t seek to use and improve their skills, they don’t see themselves as worthy of their own attention and care, they poison themselves, they accelerate their aging. I don’t want to talk about how to change that, this naturally would require a personal reawakening, and a total change of mindset (and we know it happens) – I give the examples to illustrate how you can tell who appreciates and who doesn’t.
When you see a person who appreciates himself or herself: they use their time in a worthwhile way, they appreciate the skills they have and they invest in improving those skills. Hence not only they benefit but many others benefit in many ways from their skills. I want my dentist, my doctor, and my hairdresser to keep improving their skills and knowledge because I will benefit from it.
Definition of Active appreciation It’s something we do to increase the value of who we are*, what we have, what we do. And as the result we create more value, we increase the worth of our skills and assets in monetary and many non monetary ways.
(*Who we are in our roles and jobs, not who we are as human beings – because that value never changes.)
I’m on a road trip now and we visited many towns and cities and you can tell if there is no appreciation. Where there is no appreciation it leads to depreciation. There is lack of care, trash, graffiti, run down buildings, uneven sidewalks, and general sense of sadness. Because there is no beauty. Such a city will not attract tourists, businesses, or an influx of money, it will not attract people who want to live there and do their part in taking care of the place.
The opposite of appreciation is lack of care, lack of attention and neglect. How does it relate to personal development and our skills? how can we appreciate our non material assets so we actively raise the value of those assets?
Example: The present moment. The moment I have now will have less or more value to me, depending on how I choose to see it. Do I choose to notice it? What do I think and feel about it? What will I DO consciously from that place, not being on autopilot? Which usually means, being caught up in worry, anxiety about something coming up, self criticism. Appreciating the moment increases its worth to me now.
How exactly does it fit into a model? (from Episode 5 ) Take anything, take any of your relationships, your goals, or your skills.
Circumstance: goal: a book, desire to write + a skill to write
Thought: (you can have many thoughts about it. Let’s look at those that create a problem that means don’t contribute to effective work) “It will never get done” “who needs another book” “There are plenty of books written on this subject” “I’m a fraud trying to talk about it” “people will think I got it figured out and I’m still a hot mess.” “It’s not good enough.”
Feeling: discouraged (some thoughts will cause you to feel regret, panicked, rushed)
Action: how do you like to work on something when discouraged? You may look into the past, devalue the idea, devalue your talent, devalue your time you have in the month to come, maybe even denying you have time, not looking for opportunities to create the time in your schedule. Overeat and find ways to make yourself feel better temporarily
Result: book not written, work not progressing, nothing created – no value for you or anyone else.
I know well that you will have dozens if not hundreds thoughts about any given subject. This is just a drop in the ocean of those thought. Intentional thinking – how active appreciation shows up in the model:
C- goal: a book desire to write + a talent
T- I will get it done at the right time
A- open your eyes to the time available, create spaciousness when it comes to creative thinking, freedom of choice when and how you will get it done, think positive thoughts about you, your talent and your book idea. Hence valuing all of it. Schedule and write from a place of fulfillment and responsibility to your idea.
R- progressing work, growing body of work. Better appreciation for the idea, skill, yourself, and your future reader, and sense of worth.
Self appreciation is not selfish, there is always someone on the receiving end. Someone who benefits. By appreciating what we have we increase it’s worth because our thoughts that focus on appreciation, create feelings that lead to actions that increase the worth of the assets.
Remember to look at the worth way beyond monetary value. If you think there is room for you to have more self appreciation, especially when it comes to getting your creative things done and if on top of that you see that your creative frustrations lead you to overeating – you are at the right place. I help to address both and create success in both areas. Go to Positivelyrebellious.com and schedule a free consultation. Thank you for listening!